- Within the lovely afternoon gentle, Somoina Kimojino sits behind Carolina Herrera sun shades at a backyard in Cedars Restaurant, Nairobi.
- She is in a brand new profession season after being at Capital FM for 15 years, solely leaving final 12 months through the grinding pandemic to hitch Homeboyz Radio as Basic Supervisor.
Within the lovely afternoon gentle, Somoina Kimojino sits behind Carolina Herrera sun shades at a backyard in Cedars Restaurant, Nairobi. She doesn’t take away them the entire time, sitting one leg draped over the opposite.
She has simply completed her working lunch; hen wings. She is in a brand new profession season after being at Capital FM for 15 years, solely leaving final 12 months through the grinding pandemic to hitch Homeboyz Radio as Basic Supervisor.
From behind the mysterious veil of Herrera, she speaks about divorce, motherhood, love, God, and her father who died in a street accident in 1978, when she had barely learnt the right way to brush her tooth.
For this interview with JACKSON BIKO, she was accompanied by her protecting pal and bridesmaid, Zuhura Ogada, who finishes her sentences and typically evenly protests at a few of her extra modest solutions.
How did you find yourself within the media?
My dad was within the media. He was a radio broadcaster with Voice of Kenya (VOK). He was a part of the Presidential Press Unit, again in Moi’s time. He died in a street accident whereas heading to cowl a presidential occasion in Kisumu in 1978.
I by no means grew up with out him however I felt like he was at all times a part of our lives. My mother stored him alive for us. He used to take us to VOK, I don’t recall however possibly a seed was sown then. I then studied communications in Canada (College of Windsor) the place I had a radio present on campus. I used to do an African Caribbean present. After I moved again to Kenya, I labored at KBC then I met Chris Kirubi and he employed me on the spot.
What do you suppose goes to be the one factor that defines your life ultimately?
Wow. The one factor…(Lengthy pause). Motherhood. I hope my kids can say that I used to be a wonderful mom. I hope others can say that I raised God-fearing boys. I’ve raised them to be loving regardless of the circumstances. I’m divorced. They stick with their father now. He remarried, nearly two years in the past. So after they went to his marriage ceremony, I used to be advised that the older one spoke and he welcomed his stepmother to the household. Everybody teared, I’m advised. I used to be proud after I heard that, to know that he prolonged grace and like to her.
How has divorce altered the course of your life?
I bear in mind after I first uttered the phrase divorce, my household was like, ‘no, no, you may work it out. Try to work it out.’ However what individuals don’t know is that by the point you might be uttering these phrases you’ve reached the top of the street, a stage of finality. Was it stuff we might have labored out? Sure, possibly. I used to be the one who was a bit extra inflexible then. Divorce made me realise that I’m stronger than I imagined. There’s additionally the stigma it comes with; being divorced with kids. Who’s going to need you with two boys? No one goes to lift anyone’s sons! (Chuckles) That’s the query I obtained. ‘I don’t want anybody to lift my sons, I simply want somebody who respects and takes me for who I’m,’ I mentioned.
Divorce additionally made me stronger in religion. I obtained nearer to God. But additionally as a result of my mother raised us on her personal, I knew I might do it. Sooner or later, I ended up being a mom and father as a result of my ex-husband was in a foreign country then. He is a wonderful father.
We agreed that when the boys reached 11, they’d go dwell with him to get the expertise of a father determine. It was a sacrifice on my half.
In case you’re to get married once more, what would you do in a different way?
[Zuhura cuts in with an answer]
I really feel like I am interviewing two individuals. Zuhura, do you need to pull your chair nearer right here, maybe?
(Laughter) I feel I’d be extra forgiving. When you find yourself younger, you maintain onto issues, issues that forestall therapeutic. I ought to have forgiven him however I couldn’t on the time. However age teaches you that.
You’ve gotten an important profession going. You appear to be in wonderful well being. You get alongside along with your ex-husband’s spouse and co-parenting goes nice. What are you scuffling with presently?
Oh my God. Companionship. (Chuckles) It’s the one factor I can’t appear to get proper. (Laughs) I’ve a good circle of pals and I discover it laborious to discover outdoors and meet new individuals. It doesn’t assist that I’m an introvert. I don’t exit. So I have to study to step out of the field and take a threat. Sadly, I don’t know the right way to.
What’s your love language?
High quality time and bodily contact.
What would you say has been the tipping level in your profession?
Transitioning and reworking I feel being the curator of Koroga Pageant is a tipping level and the way it reworked the dwell African music scene and instilled confidence in concert-goers. That, you may say, is the cherry on my cake.
What do you understand as success?
Peace. Once you’re in a position to get up each morning and never fear.
Of the belongings you realized in your profession, what are you making an attempt to unlearn?
Wow. (Lengthy pause) Possibly work-life stability. Covid has taught us that now you may get the job performed and nonetheless spend time with your loved ones. Typically as girls, we really feel that to climb to the highest we have to work twice as laborious. We do although. And in that journey we really feel like we won’t say no if we’re, as an illustration, known as for a gathering at an odd time when try to be house with the youngsters. You then realise you don’t need to. Studying to say no is in itself an important journey.
What do you dream of now in your 40s?
A cottage in Nanyuki overlooking Mount Kenya. A house I can chill and be capable to work from.
What do you worry probably the most now?
(Pause) Not having achieved what I need to accomplish for my boys. Will they be high-quality if I am going as we speak? I feel there’s much more that I need to be there for with them. There’s another worry which I don’t know if I ought to inform you on report or not. (Pause) I feel that if I discover excellent peace and companionship, I’ll die. I preserve having that premonition. [Zuhuru: ‘Don’t write that Biko, people will think she will die].
So that is working completely, you’re staying alive as a result of the suitable individual has not come your manner?
The place’s all these stemming from?
It’s due to my dad. My mother and my dad have been simply the right pair. Everyone says how a heat and loving individual he was and the way properly he handled my mother. He was taken away from her at such a time after they have been simply in excellent concord, excellent match, excellent love. Behind my thoughts, I don’t need to get to that time of perfection.
Do you discover it more durable up to now the extra profitable you get?
Completely. Males get intimidated. Those who aren’t are the improper match. Additionally, bear in mind the stigma round divorce I discussed. It’s additionally more durable if the person you are attempting up to now is single as a result of his mother and father will elevate a difficulty. It’s simpler if he’s divorced or widowed.